I found this fabulous graphic on the ALA Learning Round Table blog. I think it is a doozy! Showed it to a couple of folks at work and we all agreed this is pretty damn good. So using the flow chart above: Am I happy? Pretty much! So I have to follow the Yes line. Better keep doing what I am doing. Things can change though, and the next time I have to make a big decision, or if I am in the depths of misery I’m going to get out the chart and figure things out using it. I think often times in an organisation it is possible to get very influenced by those around you. If your work buddies are a bit flat it can be infectious and you can get dragged into the mire of putting things down and bearing a bit of bitterness and resentment which isn’t actually yours to own. Next year I am going to be much better at trying not to do this.
I also think that while the chart above is good, there are lots of grey areas. You can be happyish for instance or miserableish. Lucky for me mostly the miserableish times are considerably fewer than the others, and wallowing in misery is not my style, I’m far more likely to get shitty and explode and then it will be all over and I’m back to normal again, but it is the situations that drag on for a long time which you can’t do anything about which are the hardest to deal with. While the chart tells you to change something if you want to be happy this is not as simple as it might seem. Sometimes the thing that does your head in is something that you cannot change.
I have a situation like this every year at this time of the year when the year is nearly over. Frankly it is a pain! It is a small but not insignificant thing, and I can’t change it, because even though it affects me directly I am not consulted, and even if I am, my opinion is not considered. So, what to do? I have decided to let it go! Eventually someone will see that several staff members are adversely affected by the situation, that it costs my employer lots of money because of how it is currently done and that it could be managed much better. I have grown tired of trying to change the things I cannot change, and battling against forces that are stronger than me. In the meantime I am doing a something about a situation I can do something about, and which will, when it is sorted, make me much happier at work at this time of year. Sorting it out! Making me happier! OMG I’m finally growing up!